Remember that impulsive love is perfectly blind. It will as soon be placed on unworthy objects as worthy. ‘Command such love to stand still and cool.’ Give place to genuine thought and deep, earnest reflection. Is this object of your affection, in the scale of intelligence and moral excellence, in deportment and cultivated manners, such that you will feel a pride in presenting her to your father’s family, to acknowledge her in all society as the object of your choice, one whose society, conversational powers, and manners will interest and satisfy your most grand expectations? Will Nellie fill this bill? I answer decidedly, No, she will not. (TSB 22.1) MC VC